Please note: This is a rough draft. I'll be adding more of my study on Leadership, Discipleship, Mentorship and Worship at a later time. but these are my thoughts and perceptions so far on my study. 

I finally rationalized the concepts needed to communicate what I've failed to rationalize for the last 3-6 months: here's what I got.

A Brief description of my perceptions:

Worship is the act of the children of God to bring glory and praise to God. creating a connection between us and God through the holy spirit.

Worship, teaching worship, what worship is and how we worship, is a part of the discipleship process (need another word other than process but eh it works -sorta-). And Discipleship, when coerced or an "Ineffectually" communicated vision, be it the vision of discipleship, worship, or the desire, and actions of the church, rewards participants little, but when the connection and RELATIONSHIP (which is what WORSHIP is (a connection to the relationship)) is bilaterally elevated through expression and mutual communication of the vision [I'm going to cross link another study i'm doing on "Communicating the vision of the church" a bit later, it will appear as a link here] and process [edit] the result is exponential, when effectively done and demonstrated through song, and talking about "The Vision" inside and outside the places where we would consider worship "Centers" ie church, the songs are worship, the sermon is worship. the communion is worship nearly all acts where you're interfacing with God would bring glory to him when done in an effort to connect and commune with him. Alone or in a group.

What I've been trying to communicate:

That being said, what I've been trying to communicate in all of that is:

The manipulation of emotion in the act of worship (singing an emotional song to invoke or spark an environment) detracts from the effectiveness of true worship. The presentation detracts from the effectiveness of true worship. Now, I'm not against creating an environment or atmosphere of worship and I’m not against using songs, emotion or [insert your action here] to invoke an environment. I'm not against the use of affect to enact an emotional response to bring about worship.

What I'm trying to communicate to those around me is

The desire for the thing effectively limits your ability to obtain the essence of that thing.

That in the effort to obtain _____ through the use of ___ to create an emotional response, you lose a part that which you want to obtain.

It doesn't prevent the obtaining, but you'll find that when you let go of "The self" you reach what you were grabbing for in the process of worshi. That is what worship connection looks like. And that is why emotional invocation of the connection detracts from the act of worship.

In my experience and understanding, Worship is the connection, your spirit reaching out to connect with the holy spirit to connect with all aspects of God. Like a battery, in that the contents of the item are distributed throughout, and connect to even other batteries that are connected to the item.

Discipleship is at its core the connectivity between the self and the mentor and God. It, discipleship, is an act of worship. In fact, in all mentoring relationships are at their very essence bilateral. (not to be confused with discipleship relationships which are equally and essentially bilateral) Meaning that if you set out to mentor another, you in fact must accept mentoring yourself from that very person who you wish to mentor. The mentor is only effective when (s)he releases the responsibility of judgement to God, and not to themselves.

A Preface to the next part:

I believe mentoring and discipleship are two different things.  so instead of trying to separate the two in topic, I will attempt to show how they are related but not how they are different. How I believe they are different is the focus of their purpose. Quickly, something that they both share is the relationship of encouragement, forgiveness and love. Mentoring is a focus on the process, the methods, the outcome. Discipleship is a focus on the relationship, the emotional, the spiritual and evangelical process (and all the outcomes) if you're wondering where sin is addressed, continue below :) (ie, it's a part of the relationship and spiritual focus) both have many commonalities in how they are practiced but they are not by themselves equal to one another.

What does this look like:

Questions, answers and discovery of how to live life according to God's word is the discipleship experience. (again, not to be confused with mentoring but also again, these aspects of the mentoring experience are included in the discipleship experience) It's been my experience that people don't see mentoring this way, in that they see it as a "Teaching" moment.

and that... it's that attitude, that detracts from and removes one's self as a mentor and creates an instructor. (not to be confused with teacher, (yes, they have the same definition but the connotation is different. like the definition of President and Chief))

It's That SAME detraction that "effort" (being an outside force applying process, and presentation beyond a natural holy experience) applies to "worship". It doesn't prevent the experience, but it does limit it.

BUT and here’s the kicker,

We have conditioned ourselves to “Let go of [The Self]” at select times. During church, during worship, during the times where we feel safe to lose control and worship.

And it IS THAT conditioning, that is what I’m against. The precept that we live in our box and grow only in ______ ways.

As a leader, I feel that a great mentor provides us a way (method, process, logic, encouragement) to overcome our conditioning, be it sinful conditioning (which should be addressed through love but addressed) or relationship conditioning (which is kingdom reward, or "Strength of Relationship" based)

And as a disciple, I feel that a great discipleship relationship provides us a way to overcome our fear, retracted natures, own spirit, limiting us from connecting with God in all aspects available to us. this also limits us from going out and sharing the God with the people and its that a disciple demonstrates to those looking at them, not just following them. Showing others not through force, or corrosion but through the mentoring relationship that comes with discipleship that God truly does love all who come before him, confess and believe in him. a Disciple learns to share h(is|er) faith through relationships. connection. and takes responsibility for those whom (s)he disciples, not in a forceful way but in a mentoring, loving hearted, spirited concern way that represents the passion of Jesus accurately. 

This is where worship fits. within the Discipleship, Mentoring process. demonstrating the connection between ourselves, and the spirit, and God, in ALL things. not just Sunday morning.

And it is True worship, effective, spirit lead, spirit filled worship removes the reasons to hold onto yourself in ALL aspects of life, and all times. It’s on Sunday or in church where we come to re-enforce the ability to “Let go of the self” and cling to God retaining peace with our “Loss of control” (take the word "Worship" and replace it with Discipleship: I've done it for you here below and added one line)

True discipleship, effective, Spirit lead, spirit filled discipleship removes the reasons to hold onto yourself in ALL aspects of life, and all times from BOTH sides of the relationship.

What’s funny is that, regardless of our perception, we are not in control, but it’s that cognitive process that causes us a disjointed experience in our worship (discipleship) [process].

Now this is about Worship at church. and leadership's assessment and process in bringing their vision for the church to life to the church itself AND those outside the church. I'm not singling out one specific church, or group of people. Because the church relationship generally has the first and ONE chance to make an impression in the heart of the lost. As this is not always true, this concept of "One Chance" should be on the mind of the leadership. And where I am at currently, I feel that. I feel it growing, I feel it in the actions and process that the church has communicated. And I know the church, the universal church can communicate the "Vision" in its entirety to the church DAILY through the love, actions, and heart shown to those who see them. It's my desire to show and lead as a mentor (disciple) first, a teacher second, and through humility show those that desire a relationship with me that as a sinner, we all have things to learn.

I'm trying to address how we as a team are working together for that goal. This is my attempt to explain my position on Worship, discipleship, and each of our individual responsibilities in executing those within the church be it our home church or the universal church.

In summary: what I've found is that:

The desire,.... strike that.... the emotional connection to God without the '[Letting go of the self]’ is the detraction that limits the ability of worship as an effective process of discipleship. (you could also say “effectiveness of discipleship through the process of worship)

I believe that while focusing on presentation and

So in other words, the use of coercion to enact emotional responses in worship detracts from the ability of worship, and reinforces the conditioning of retaining “The self” outside “Worship centers”

Let’s Talk about this

So the question that keeps coming up is this: What are we doing wrong in worship?

The answer is not an answer, but a redirection to the process and its communication to the participants.

Worship is a constant process, we are told to bring glory to god in all things.
Do we communicate the heart of worship in all things to all that we do?  What does that look like?
Do our actions not only show worship but communicate it? What does that look like?
Do we mentor effectively to show the effective way to worship? What does that look like?
Do we disciple effectively to show the effective way to worship? What does that look like?

Do we feel responsible as individuals in the church, outside of leadership to communicate the effective way of worship? What does that look like?

Are we responsible to other individuals in the church to communicate the effective way of worship? What does that look like?

We are told that Leadership is shown, when In fact leadership is the relationship of responsibility. And as a leader we choose, and guide others who choose to follow our choice and guidance.

An Effective leader sees that relationship as a mentorship(discipleship) with the addition of making a choice, and providing guidance.

And Discipleship(Mentorship) is routed in the relationship between those who choose to follow us as their mentor, we choose to lead them, as a leader. Where the process is through Guidance we then derive the choice.

It is there that true worship exists. If we continue to not focus on the process of Letting go of the Self through corporate worship (in our worship centers, on Sunday) it only demonstrates how we are ineffective leaders in our relationships, ineffective disciplers, and mentors.

As we have created a community where the individual who understands this can "Refresh" their worship spirit (the "letting go of self" process) I feel we have ineffectively communicated (the vision) the process OUTSIDE of the worship center while focusing primarily on the worship center.

One last question. if your precondition response is to think that you are unable to bring glory to god in your anger. Talk with God about Matthew 21:12-13‚Äč and John 2:13-22

In my anger, how do I worship God?